A few weeks ago I delivered a workshop I shouldn’t have agreed to.
The contract alone should have told me everything I needed to know. It was someone else’s design, and involved demonstrating a role play with a professional actor – not my comfort zone – and cycling participants through breakout rooms in a way that felt relentless rather than purposeful.
It was only 90 minutes long and on paper I was fine. Professional. Nobody would have known I was uncomfortable and not delivering in a way that was authentic to me. I know how to mask.
I didn’t do another useful thing for the rest of the day.
Not because it was hard, but because it wasn’t me.
That specific kind of tired has a biological explanation: introverts naturally operate at a higher baseline arousal, which means additional stimulation tips you over threshold faster than it does for most people. Performing extroversion – even for a relatively short period – isn’t just socially draining; it’s neurologically expensive.
You look completely fine from the outside, which is why nobody ever asks.
But you can’t protect what you haven’t named yet.
So start there.
When did you last spend a full day being exactly as introverted as you actually are?
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Not managing it. Not softening it for the room. Just operating at your actual pace, your actual volume, your actual wiring.
Journal it, or just let it run in the background and see what surfaces. And if something comes up – hit reply. I read everything and I’d genuinely love to know.
This is where Introvert OSâ„¢ starts. Understanding what your energy is actually being spent on. It’s also where we begin in async coaching, and the answers tend to surprise people.
In your corner always,
Sam 💛
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| | Sam SheppardIntrovert StrategistNeuroscience-backed insights for introverts who are tired of adapting to a world that wasn’t built for them. ​ |
